Weekends and holidays are a great time to meet up with a few friends and catch up on a few things. You may catch up on the job market, the weather, a great blockbuster movie, or maybe even your job. Now for your unemployed friends, hearing all about your job may put them at unease; especially if they’ve been job-hunting for a very long time and they’re not exactly unemployed by choice. It goes without saying, that it definitely makes a sensitive subject to open up. For these reasons, in order to avoid putting your unemployed friends in a sensitive situation, we have summed up a few things that you should avoid saying to them:
“You’re so lucky you don’t have to go to work!”
Lets be honest here, as frustrating as your job could be sometimes, your unemployed friends probably envy you for having a job in the first place. As long as you’re earning a paycheck, gaining experience, and building on your career, your unemployed friends probably feel like they’re not doing anything as productive in comparison. Which is why you shouldn’t remind them of the fact that they’re not as fortunate as you are for having a job. Chances are, they’d rather get a paycheck rather than sit at home and wait for a job opportunity.
“I know how you feel”
If you’re not unemployed as well, then you should probably avoid saying this to your unemployed friends. Trying to understand how your friends really feel about struggling to find a job can be quite hard when you have a have a job yourself. Knowing that you’re not experiencing the same problem will most likely trivialize the situation even further since you don’t really know what its like to be in their shoes and experience the struggle of unemployment.
“What do you do in your free time?”
There’s no need to put your friends in a situation where they have to answer this question, because it’s most likely that they’re spending their free time at home, running errands, or looking for jobs. Your unemployed friends might be suffocating with boredom (with all the free time that they have) and might feel embarrassed to mention it when they know how busy you are in comparison.
“You should have majored in something else”
Telling your unemployed friends that they should have majored in something else, will only emphasize on their failure. Your unemployed friends are aware of the difficulties of finding a job, so they’re also aware of the setbacks that they’re facing. There’s no time machine that can take them back in time and change their college major, so try to avert making them feel uncomfortable by not emphasizing on what they should have done. Instead, opt to help them out by suggesting what they should do to get out of the unemployment rut.